How the COME FORTH Formula rebuild trust in a relationship
The COME FORTH formula is a process that couples can go through to regain trust in their relationship. This process works for marriages, romantic relationships, friendships, co-workers, family members, and more.
The goal of this method is to have healing, to restore the relationship, and for trust to be fully established once again.
The COME part of the formula is for the party that is the offender. This is the person who did something that broke the trust in the relationship.
The FORTH part of the formula is for the receiving end. The person who was hurt and whose trust was broken is to use the FORTH part of the formula to work through the hurt to learn to trust again.
The COME FORTH formula is for both parties to work through the broken trust to help heal the relationship and themselves.
It is not an easy or quick process for either party. It requires commitment, vulnerability, openness, and a willingness to communicate from both parties. When the COME FORTH formula is completed correctly, the relationship can be restored.
When reading the steps in the formula below, keep in mind that COME is for the offender and the FORTH is for the victim. Therefore, explanations are worded in a manner to address those specific parties under each letter.
For the offender: COME
C: Come clean
Now is the time to come clean about whatever it is that you have done to wrong your loved one, friend, co-worker, or someone else who you hurt by breaking their trust. It is better for you to admit your wrong doing and genuinely seek forgiveness before they find out from someone else.
Before you approach the individual to come clean, know what you are going to say.
Make sure your heart is in a state of seeking forgivness and wanting to heal the relationship by telling them. If you are angry and blaming them for your wrong doing in any way, then you are likely to cause more division rather than getting on the right path toward healing the relationship.
If the violation you are coming clean about is in regard to infidelity, then you should admit your wrongdoings without giving graphic details. Your loved one does not need to be hurt with details pertaining to the specific