Trust is the rock upon which all relationships exist. If that rock is chipped away by deceit, over time the foundation crumbles.
When something more serious happens such as infidelity in a marriage, the trust and foundation are broken in an instant. It is not easy to rebuild trust but it is possible.
Whether the trust is broken between a friendship or a marriage, the steps and formula for overcoming the broken trust are the same. In any relationship where trust is broken, both parties must be willing to work through the brokenness in order to heal the relationship. It is not a one sided process.
When the party who has been hurt does not want to reconcile because the hurt is too deep, then the relationship cannot be restored. Likewise, if the offending party does not want to own up to their wrong doing that broke the trust, then the relationship cannot be restored in that situation either.
Both sides must be willing to come to the table and be open, honest, and vulnerable. They must also care enough to want to put forth the effort that is required to make the relationship work again. It is not a one sided process.
In fact, it requires a great deal from both parties involved. There is a question to ask before you embark on restoration of the relationship: “Is the person and relationship you had worth the emotional effort?” It’s only a question you can answer for yourself.
If you answered yes, and the other party has also said yes, then the formula below will help both parties work through the broken trust so the relationship can be restored.
The good news is that when using this formula, both parties can become more emotionally healthy and the relationship can be strengthened.
When trust is broken and both parties are willing to do what it takes in this formula to make the relationship work, then that relationship is strengthened and enhanced.
Some of the enhancements may include greater closeness, improved transparency, sincere vulnerability, and open communications that create a better, longer lasting relationship.